Friday, February 19, 2010

So Many Feelings

Some of my friends!


It’s nearing the end of the week and also the days of homesickness. I’m traveling to Mozambique next week, so excitement from that trip must be helping. At the beginning of this week, I went through a lot of emotions…sadness—for my Mochudi family and also because I missed home…frustration—with the even greater attention I was receiving from the Mocudi locals, also with the financial situation of my Mochudi family…anxiety—about a hard 2 weeks before our break. With the week in Mochudi almost over (although last night Sophie and I stayed in Gabs—I had a 7-9pm P. Chem lab this morning) and one test down, these feelings have decreased. I still have quite a lot to do for school, but I know if I work hard on those things this weekend, I should be ok. I have a presentation for HIV/AIDS on Monday, a P. Chem test Tuesday, and a bunch of CIEE stuff due Thursday. Also my weekly lab report due Friday. Plus, my Mochudi mom, Joyce, is expecting me to bake on Saturday. SO I need to first lok up a recipe and then hit the store for ALL necessary ingredients, which may include some bakeware/tools.


Joyce’s uncle killed himself last Monday, so there may be a funeral this weekend. Apparently, he tried to kill his girlfriend with an ax, [unknowingly] failed at that, and killed himself. These so-called “passion-killings” are actually quite common here—scary—and strange—and SAD.

Skyped Mom and Dad last night! It was great! I really miss them, and home, and America!

Wednesday, February 17, 2010

Financial circumstances

Joyce killed one of her chickens today for our dinner. I’m wondering how often she does that. She has maybe 12 of them left. We had that and sorghum for dinner. I think she used most of the chicken…not sure about organs, but I had a lot of fatty pieces on my plate. They are running low on food. The loaf of bread is gone—only lasted about 3 days. The cereal bars are about gone, and so are 3 of the 4 cartons of milk. I’m wondering how often Joyce goes to the store.

Boipelo, my 18-year-old sister, texted me a message this evening, begging me to buy her airtime so she could talk to someone (her girlfriend, I think). I had to tell her no—although I can afford it where do you draw the line? I bought a thank you gift to give them on my first day, and I plan on baking something on Saturday. I want to do more, but I don’t know if it’s ok to or not. My [real] mom is sending me a box of stuff to give them. Will that set a precedence for future students they will host??? Probably will. Boipelo can’t afford the 20 pula registration fee to retake her exam to try to go to university. Should I provide the means for her to go to college? Joyce wants 2 more freezers and also to travel to SA to buy second-hand clothes to sell. Should I give her the means so she can support her family? I believe she is married, but I don’t think the dad every comes around, and I doubt he’s financially supporting the family.

My mom, Joyce, on the left, helping at a funeral

It’s a humbling experience living with this family—and I’m not even here much---just at night and only for a week. After my stay, I still don't think I'll have a grasp on what this family's life is really like.  Sometimes I think they say stuff to make me feel bad for them...hoping I'll get/buy them what they need.  And if I CAN then should I?  Jesus would?  Or would He?!?  I really donj't know.  What I should do is look to the Bible and pray for guidance.  It's hard, but definitely a challenge that is good for me to experience.

Monday, February 15, 2010

Power Outage!

My mom and dad

My brother, Kutlwana on the right, with two friends on the left

My brother, Katlago, baking scones with me


Second night in Mochudi for village stay. Had a bowl of beans a corn for dinner—large and quite good! Then Kutlwano brought me a huge and cold mango from the fridge with a huge knife, too! They have 2 mango trees (plus an orange, strawberry, and lemon tree). As I was eating it and watching TV with Joyce, Kutlwano, and Katlago the power went out! Which I guess is a common thing. They got a candle out and we just all sat there…me messily eating my mango. When I was done, Kutlwano brought me a wet cloth to wipe my hands and took my plate into the kitchen. He is the youngest, so he is always being asked to do things for all the others. They taught me a little Setswana…but it is so hard for me to remember the words. I normally ask them to spell out whatever they’re saying so I can understand the words better.

Sunday, February 14, 2010

Valentine's Day

Sophie and I are staying at UB tonight in her dorm room. Her mom didn’t seem to want her to come back tonight after my soccer game. My mom didn’t really care either way, but we both decided to stay in Gabs because it would have been dark by the time we got back to Mochudi.


It poured so hard after my soccer game, which we lost 5-2. Sophie and I and our bags got drenched. We finally made it to one of the UB security gates and stood under the shelter for about 20 minutes. We didn’t know what to do then, because it was still raining so hard. We decided to call a cab to take us to Riverwalk for dinner and a movie (our Valentine’s Day date!), and after we called, a cab pulled up to the gate, and we then decided to take that one, but not to Riverwalk—to Vegas, Sophie’s dorm. We looked at some Mozambique trip stuff, ordered pizza, watched a movie, and showered all the dirt off that had blown into us during the soccer game. It was pretty windy before the storm hit!



So, class tomorrow. I have a lab report due tomorrow and then I’m getting together with my lab partner to work on the one we have due this Friday…they take a while! I also MUST study for Physics and P. Chem. Test in both classes next week! And I really want to do well in them, but I have almost zero motivation to study for them. The environment here does not make it easy to study (no one else seems to study or care about studying, and it’s so hot!) and it’s also my last semester of undergrad. So, I’m basically struggling quite a bit with the academic part of my stay here. But everything else is pretty good. I don’t think I could live here, though. But I think I’d come back and visit. It just makes me appreciate America and the education and work ethic there. I’m looking forward to going home.

Relativity of Materialism

Just about to meet Sophie to go to a Pentacostal church this morning. I’m having a hard time right now, though. I’m sad that myself, and so many others, live with so much, while these people live with nothing. But this is what they’re used to…and who says they have ‘nothing’ when that is only referring to things, materialistic items that don’t mean anything in the end anyway. Maybe by having less things, they have more.

Saturday, February 13, 2010

Village Homestay



First night of my Mochudi village stay. City/town of about 30,000 , but seems as though people are poorer here. Less white people as well. Our whole group left this morning around 9:30 and once in Mochudi, we dropped every9one off at their houses. I was hoping to be last so I could see everyone’s houses…and I was! Sophie is my neighbor so I went and hung out at her place for a few hours (which included a sweaty, but much needed, nap) before our moms and us went to Choppie’s for groceries! I’m pretty sure they used all of the money they had just received on food! My mom, Joyce, is so sweet and operates a tuck shop from her house. She sells ice blocks, ice cream, snuff, candy, clothes, mangos, and other random things. She loved the cutting board and kitchen utensils I gave her. I’m the third student to stay here, but the first to bring a gift!


The property is fairly large. The house is a one-story with three bedrooms and a bathroom. They have electricity and plumbing, which is nice, but seems as though they don’t have much money. She’s saving up to buy two more freezers for her tuck shop and also for a bus ticket to SA so she can buy more second-hand clothes to sell.

It’s definitely a different experience from my other homestay. Monkie isn’t rich, by any means, but the two lifestyles are very different.


Sounds I’m hearing:
  • Mosquitoes flying over my head (thank goodness for my mosquito net)
  • Dogs barking outside
  • My brother’s Sean Kingston playing
  • Little kids playing outside; clapping, singing, laughing
  • Bugs chirping outside
  • Joyce and Korabo speaking Setswana in the living room

Tuesday, February 9, 2010

Pics from Vic Falls

One of the several hippos we saw on our sunset booze cruise.  We saw about six in the water and two on land.  They even made noises for us.

The beautiful Victoria Falls....it was so wet and rainy, that is was difficult to get many pictures of the falls.  I didn't want to break my camera!



Three of the four people that went on the trip.  Myself on the left, Jen from New York in the middle, and Sophie from Baltimore on the right.  Dalton, from England, took this photo.
At the bus station in Francistown, Botswana, on our way back home.  People sell things to bus passengers...this lady selling mangoes!

Monday, February 8, 2010

Buckets and Bungees

Bungee jumping at Victoria Falls is one thing I can add to my list of new experiences. It is something I never thought I’d do, I’m glad I did, and don’t know if I’ll ever do again. Sophie, Jen, Dalton, and I took a three day trip to Victoria Falls, Zambia and it was definitely a highlight of my time here in Africa. We boarded a bus Thursday at 7pm, and arrived at the Botswana-Zambia border about 12 hours later. Let me just say that the ride did not go by uneventful...Dalton got into a little scuffle with a woman who we picked up in Francistown, Botswana. Since the bus was full, she had brought along a bucket and pillow to act as her seat. Out of the 20 aisles on the bus, she decided on ours and was very stubborn and reluctant to move, despite Dalton’s initial and persistent argumentation. After three hours of her wide behind pushing against Dalton on one side of the aisle and Jen on the other, Dalton decided he wasn’t going to take it anymore. After a quick bathroom break, we loaded the bus again and, without hesitation, the woman places her bucket back in the aisle of our row. When she went to move Dalton’s armrest up, so her backside could fit across the aisle, Dalton resisted her, and kept the armrest down. This started a physical battle over the position of the armrest. It went on for a little while, with her trying to push it up, and him trying to keep it down, and soon surrounding rows took notice. I saw some hands from the row behind us that were trying to push the woman’s hand away...they were fighting for Dalton, but with all the Setswana that started going back and forth between other passengers, Jen and Sophie had the idea that the bus was fighting against Dalton. The bus coordinator, after seeing this conflict, came back to our row and then began about 10 minutes of argumentation, mostly in English now, between him and the other passengers, who were so kind and were passionately arguing for Dalton. Mostly thanks to these other passengers, the coordinator had the woman move to the front on the bus, I think to sit on the steps that lead out of bus. It was quite an ordeal...it got pretty intense, pretty fast. We were lucky, though, that it did go our way, because the thought of us four being kicked out of the bus for disrespecting an elder did not sound like something we wanted to experience.

A few hours later, we reached the Botswana-Zambia border and, once there, we took a ferry across the Zambezi River and got a second bus that took us to Livingstone, Zambia. We arrived there around 9am. We had reservations in the city of Victoria Falls in Zimbabwe (which is just across the falls from Zambia), but when we got to Livingstone, we realized we should have just made reservations in that country, so we didn’t have to pay for another visa to get into Zimbabwe. So, we headed to the Jollyboys Hostel, a place we had read and heard about. It was about a five-minute walk from the bus stop, and they had a four-person dorm room available...it worked out perfectly, and for $10 a night, it was a really great deal!

After taking a little afternoon nap, we did a sunset “booze cruise,” dinner and drinks for $40...and don’t let me forget the included hippos, too!! Seeing wild hippos was one of the coolest parts of the trip! They were so neat...we saw maybe six in the water, and two on land. They are large creatures! And very round! We also saw some vervet monkeys and a plethora of birds...my favorite was probably the Egyptian goose (the Tulsa Zoo has one) and also the trumpeter hornbill (which oddly sounds just like a crying baby!!!).

The next day, Saturday, was our trip to the famous Victoria Falls...and boy, did we make it a trip! We started going to see the falls, which required a raincoat rental, if you didn’t want to get drenched. The falls caused so much mist and rain, that even with raincoats, we got pretty soaked because it was just constant rain while we were walking through the trails. I was able to take some pictures, but it was hard because I didn’t want to get my camera wet! We got to view the bridge from which we would soon bungee jump, too. We saw a few people actually jump...it looked pretty awesome, and I don’t think at the time I wanted to admit to myself that I was actually about to do it! The falls were just beautiful...very magnificent and also so loud. You could hear the large volumes of water that plummeted over the edge and hit the river below...I said it was a sound I could fall asleep to every night.

We then ate lunch at a very nice hotel called the Zambezi Sun, and after that we made our way to the bungee bridge. We payed and signed a waiver (which included the word ‘fatal’ as a possible outcome), and then went to do the zip line across the gorge to bridge from which we were about to jump. The zip line wasn’t too scary…there was tension on the rope the whole time…and NO freefall. Once I get across and to the bridge where the bungee jump is, I start to get a little nervous, but it wasn’t until I was strapped up and standing over the ledge for the next activity, the bridge swing, that I started to freak out a bit more. The whole setup happened so fast that before I knew it, they were counting “three, two, one” and I jumped over the ledge! I stepped feet first off the ledge and it was about a 3.5 second freefall…pretty scary. I was attached to a rope across the gorge a ways so once that tension hit, I said “Thank you, Jesus,” out loud and laughed. It was amazing once the swing part started. I swung back and forth across the gorge over a river…just a breath-taking view…so beautiful. After swinging back and forth for several minutes, a guys repelled down to get me, hooked my straps up to his and then we were hauled back up to the bridge. I watched my three friends do their bridge swings, so happy that I had already done mine (I requested to go first), and then it was time for the bungee jump. They strapped me up one last time, once again a very quick ordeal…so quick I was a little worried they had forgotten something. They gave some quick instructions as I stood on the ledge (Dive outwards, keep your hands up) and abruptly started the countdown, from five this time. I dove off the ledge, face-first, and instinct had me close my eyes for most of the free-fall. Once the tension hit the rope I bounced almost all the way back to the bridge and kept doing so until I slowly came to a stop and was just hanging upside down over the gorge. Again I thanked God for keeping me alive and laughed out loud, so shocked at what I had just done! A guy repelled down to get me and we were hoisted back up to the bridge. I then watched my friends do it, so relieved that I was done with everything! I am so, so happy that I did it…I think I’d do it again, but I’m not 100% sure about that. It was a pretty amazing thing, and sort of a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity. The bridge swing was definitely the scariest out of all three activities…but for sure the most enjoyable (after the free-fall part, of course).
We made it back home that night, ate dinner at the hostel restaurant an prepared to be at the bus station at 4:30 in the morning to try and get on the bus going to the Zambia-Botswana border. We get there only to find out that the bus is full…so the bus employees help us to get a taxi to the border, ensuring that some of the bus passengers will be getting off at the border, and we could take their seats. So, we get in this taxi, go to some house that was apparently a “gas station,” fill up, and start driving. We’re driving basically in the middle of nowhere, it’s still dark out, my three friends are sleeping…and I hear this loud noise, coming from the back left tire. I hit Sophie and Jen next to me to wake them up and whisper to them that I’m pretty sure we had gotten a flat tire. The driver pulls over, checks out the tire, but then returns to his seat and continues to drive. The tire is not sounding very good…and the driver is forced to go about 25 mph…the sound of the tire gets louder and the driver gets out one more time to check on the tire. He once again returns to the driver seat and continues to drive on. We end up making it to the border, who knows how, though, because when we get there and check out the tire, we were stunned to see that we had been driving on a rim for the last 30km. We got very lucky that we made it there. We took a ferry across the Zambezi River and did end up finding the bus that we needed to get on. We asked if they had four seats, they said yes and much relief came over us because up until that point, we weren’t sure if we were going to be able to get home. Although we were very fortunate to get on that bus, the drive back was a cramped and very hot one. (However, I did see TWO wild elephants out the window…very neat!!!) We made it back to Gabs around 7:30pm, and I was so happy everything worked out in our favor for the trip home. Overall, the weekend trip was a great experience, definitely a highlight of my time here. Traveling is something that I love so much, but it’s so hard to do during school. Our next trip will be to Mozambique over our semester-break. I’m looking forward to the beach!!!

Tuesday, February 2, 2010

Vic Falls!

This weekend three of us (myself, Jen, and Sophie) are planning on traveling to Victoria Falls, a huge waterfall on the Zambezi River bordering Zambia and Zimbabwe. We haven’t done much traveling yet, so it’s something we’re really looking forward to. We’re going to travel by bus, but it’s sort of frustrating because there are no set bus schedules…or just none that we’ve been able to find. We hear that there is an all-night bus that leaves around 7pm and arrives about 12 hours later. Once we get there, we know where we want to stay and also what we want to do, but we need to figure out the transportation. Or maybe we just need to arrive at the bus station with flexibility and patience. We will most likely end up going to the station Friday evening and just ask around for a bus that will take us to Vic Falls. That’s pretty much how it works here…not many signs or schedules are available for directions or public transportation.


However, when we get there, we’re going to bungee jump off of a bridge by the falls! I’m sort of nervous…but I definitely want to do it. It’s an opportunity I’ll never have again, and something I know I’ll regret if I don’t do. It’s going to be scary, but I’m really excited for the adrenaline rush!!! (Don’t worry, I’m saving skydiving for you, Megan.) We plan on doing the bungee jump on Sunday and a “sunset booze cruise” on the river on Saturday, when we arrive. You can also do a zip line and a giant swing thing along with the bungee jump, so I think we’re doing the 3 in 1 package. There is also a place called Devil’s Pool on the edge of the falls…it’s an area at the top of the falls that has a natural rock wall that prevents anything from plunging over the edge. I read that people do it in Sept and Dec, so I don’t think we’ll be doing it, but it looks feakin awesome!!!

I think I’m finally cleared to play on UB soccer team now…but since I’m traveling this weekend, I won’t be able to play! Oh well…I’m definitely not here to play soccer…I want to travel! I wasn’t cleared to play in the game last weekend…and the team lost 2-1…too bad. I don’t think they’ve won a game…ever!

I’m off to grab a pie and then head to Setswana class…I have a quiz today! I miss you all!